Writing messages on dating sites
Stick with a short, concise first message; you can write longer, detailed messages later once you have communicated back and forth a little.
Your first message should be written in the same tone you would use in person.
Your first message determines the initial impression you make, and only about one-third of first messages even receive a reply.
A common theme of success in sending your message is to be intelligently casual.
We have combined our own research with a 2009 Ok Trends study to develop comprehensive advice for sending your first message.
In the study, Ok Cupid analyzed 500,000 first messages on their website to determine which ones had the best response rates. First and foremost we would like to stress the importance of proper spelling and grammar.
In this article, we walk you through everything you need to know to successfully make contact at your dating website.
Many people using online dating websites are shy, which may explain this.
Two common approaches to invite a response are either asking a question or making a joke the person can expand upon.
Furthermore, do not "wink," "poke," or "heart" if your dating website has the option; this gives off the impression that although you are interested, they will have to do all the work.
In the last section, we go over a few examples to illustrate the principles outlined in this article.
The following examples are hypothetical first messages sent from a man to a woman.