So when we hung out, all of the sudden our platonic friendship transformed into a prospect, even though it had likely already been a prospect for him months back.
I was sick, blowing my runny nose, and coughing, but he still wrapped his arms around me, made me tea, and made sure I was comfortable in his home.
We spent the following days hanging out, walking the beach, but still keeping things platonic.
He had met and pursued a local Brasilian girl who was beyond sweet.
The sex was focused primarily on my pleasure, and he wasn’t lacking in anyway to be able to deliver it.
But it did make me reflect on why I had limited myself for so long to just having sex and dating Black men or never challenging the popular stereotypes.
I don’t know what color my husband will be, or what culture he’ll be from, but I will say this.
We know how hard it is to fight against the stereotypes of black women as lascivious, innately promiscuous, and even predatory, deviants— and yet we feel more than justified in projecting our own labels on others, unfairly sizing up men and defining their capabilities between the sheets (or lack thereof) based on what so-and-so- said instead of considering the realities of the individual that just might be the guy who can makes your toes curl.” My toes curled, more than once. And even though I doubt me and this kid from Jersey will ever be more than just friends due to our chosen life paths (he’s ready to settle in one place and pursue a serious relationship, I want to keep traveling and find a partner who is willing to go with me), it was still worth giving us the opportunity to share intimacy, a deeper level of connection, and now, a stronger friendship.Foreign (Philippines) is slightly unusual as its online dating format is somewhat different and more traditional.You won't find as many features as on other sites and there's the distinct impression that things move more slowly here and communication is more controlled.Eventually, our vacation ended and he headed to the south of Brasil to start his new job. It had been almost six months since we had first met, and I certainly had changed.I returned to the city to continue living my life, and we kept in touch through semi-frequent Skype chats about our lives as Americans in Brasil. I had opened a different chapter in my dating life, one that included more interracial dating than relationships with Black men in Brasil.