Pros and cons of dating a fat girl
It could be because I grew up primarily with my mother and fully Colombian big brother, or perhaps because whenever I took that five-hour plane journey from JFK to Medellin, I was met with passion and energy and vitality. As with any culture, though, there exist the goods and the bads, and those depend on the individual and his/her unique personality. But that didn’t mean I was equally enamored with every aspect of the culture I perceived.For me, I gravitated toward Colombia because I felt it somehow possessed more heart than anything or anyone I’d encountered in New Jersey. I loved how friendly and welcoming the people were. One of those aspects was the confusion I felt over societal perceptions of beauty. media always puts out that image of the woman who is slender, tall, somewhat boyish in frame. Colombians believe that the “perfect” woman has curves, and a lot of them.And I never really struggled with which to identify with.Though I spent most of my childhood and adolescence in the states, I always felt more connected with the Hispanic part of me.“I became aware of the many outlets for promoting acceptance of every body type in other cultures, and it’s obvious that my culture still has a lot of work to do.”I suppose it does have a lot of work to do, but so do most places.I would spend entire summers in Medellin, and throughout them I’d be critiqued for being too big — but what I found was that it wasn’t out of cruelty or malice, like it would often be in the states.
She might be in the library, at home on a Saturday night, napping in the back of class or rippin an ergo at the boathouse, but if you can find yourself a rower to date, you won’t be disappointed.
I have always seen being bi-racial as a blessing — Colombian on my mother’s side, American with eastern European roots on my father’s.
It meant that from a young age, I was exposed to two completely different cultures and languages, two completely different ethos and two completely different ways of approaching life.
Whenever anyone would talk to me about aesthetics, I’d be told that I had a beautiful face, and that I would have all the right attributes of a woman if only I dropped the belly fat.
Back when that sort of thing made me sad, I’d try and try to tone my abs, but found that in exercising, I’d lose some of my “good” generous bits, and then be told I looked like a boy. Obviously just because a lot of people within a culture prefer something over the other, it doesn’t mean everyone does, nor does it mean that everyone can adapt to the preference in question.