Issues with interracial dating
I often hear the old, tired line that black folks need to work on themselves before they can mingle romantically with other races. You can still advocate for change and love your blackness if you have a non-black spouse.
Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t make you Black.
But how would you respond to women who feel this way?
I feel like this approach could be a bit problematic (because I don’t believe race determines the quality of man).
No one is suggesting Black women avoid black men altogether. We’ve been trying to “work through our issues” for over a century.
Why can’t it be Black men and all men, instead of black men or no one at all? I’m not willing to keep sacrificing my sisters for the sake of the cause.
I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.
It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?