Dating sites suck
Anyway, Jim, I know I’ve hijacked your question to say something that I’ve really wanted to say for awhile, but it’s an important point.
If you don’t like the responses you’re getting, it’s incumbent upon you to change how people are reacting to your profile.
As long as women keep receiving a steady stream of generic emails that say, “Hey, great profile. Would love to learn more about you,” they’re convinced that they actually have great profiles. The only reason that many attractive women get these “great profile” emails is that the men writing to them need SOMETHING to say.
Unless he wants to write a “you’re hot” (or more likely, “your hot”) email, all he can say is “great profile”. Because you didn’t give him anything specific with which to work.
But unless you bring your A-game in your essays, you’re probably not going to get the intelligent, witty responses that you crave.
If you’re attractive, you will always get attention.Most men simply don’t know that a profile is the equivalent of a resume – if you don’t have a good one, you’re not getting called for an interview. Women have the same ignorance about the importance of a profile, except they don’t experience the same failure as men.As a result, they have no way to learn their lesson.One of my favorite online dating anecdotes is of a JDate woman I courted in the summer of 2004.She had a wildly entertaining profile, which included this line: “You’re witty and intelligent and consider me fully worthy of the 5,000 gold coins and two camels that my family has offered as dowry.”My response: In the Trobriand Islands, anyway, yams are a very popular dowry staple. And, at risk of being cheesy (I risk this a lot), there’s something behind your eyes.