Dating a flake towanda dating women
The average Asian girl’s multiple overlapping roles mean that she has multiple obligations to people in those spheres, all of which take priority over a random guy she talked to for 20 minutes last week. If something comes up and she has to compromise then she will inevitably compromise on the random guy since there are ZERO negative consequences. Imagine she’s scheduled to meet you after work today.She woke up at 6am and over breakfast her mom asks her what time she’ll be home for dinner.Flakes happen whenever a girl doesn’t show up to meet you after agreeing to, and unfortunately they’re a way of life in cold approach, when approaching women with no known connection to you.Having various degrees of connection before the approach can dramatically help matters, like an introduction to a friend, or a house party, or if you’re in the same social circle, but cold approach brings the most pain.In Confucianism, morality is based not on objective concepts of right and wrong that apply to everyone, everywhere in every context, but on how people should behave in particular social contexts: how a friend should treat a friend, how a husband should treat his wife, how an older brother should treat his younger brother, or how an employee should treat his boss.When you approach an Asian girl, you are outside of any social structure and, therefore, out of moral bounds which means that, in general, she has no obligation to treat you in a particular way.It’s 4pm, she’s been up for 10 hours already, has another 2 hours of work to put in, and an hour commute ahead of her.
As a Westerner, or non-local of any ethnicity, you’re at a disadvantage because, coming from outside of the standard social structures that exist in Asia means that you don’t fit into any of those interlinked societal networks so she has no obligations to you at all.
Not only will any bitterness and negativity carry forward into interactions with future women, but it takes a toll on your mental health.
Remember that she’s coming to see you, and while you want to have fun activities, YOU are the main attraction.
By contrast, in the West, we are usually required by social convention to treat one another, including complete strangers with some level of respect.
This accounts for why we feel compelled to treat even beggars nicely.