2 day rule dating
Shannon admits that her ex always had the “upper” hand in the relationship. “He was asking people about me, asking what I was up to. In fact, some of our mutual friends even told him to let it — me — go.
“I was the clingy one, the one who was more emotionally invested in the relationship. And THAT’S when he realized that he misses me,” she shares. Our communication became more regular, and then he said he wanted me back.” The “no contact” interval gave Shannon the confidence and her sense of self that she “lost while I was with him.” She says, “I told him that I needed to think about it.
It really worked wonders in helping me cope, and during those 30 days, I was able to view our relationship in a new light.” Adds Jordan, “The ‘no contact’ rule helped both Audrey and me to figure out what went wrong in our relationship.
Prior to our breakup, we were fighting all the time.
Take it from me: When I broke up with my first boyfriend, I was the one who initiated contact post-breakup, even if I was the one who broke things off.
At that time, I still loved my ex, and I wanted him back.
There are some relationships that are just too damaged to be saved. Otherwise, there are many situations where the no contact rule can work really really well.
I wasn’t going to go back to being the doormat girlfriend he was used to.“I admit that following the ‘no contact’ rule wasn’t easy.I was so tempted to give up several times, if not for my friends and family, who were so adamant that I dissolve any form of contact with my ex,” she relates. I took up a new hobby, went on a trip, and started working out to keep my mind off him.” Needless to say, Shannon’s ex was bewildered when he didn’t hear from her.But by not following the “no contact” rule, my plan to win my ex back backfired.And that’s when I realized that hounding, pestering, and stalking my ex only pushed him farther away from me, instead of giving me the result that I wanted.